Teenage Sex (Part 3)

The topic of sexual exploits seems to set teenagers ablaze, must be the raging hormones. One guy I know thinks that he is ready to lose his virginity by a certain date, because the opportunity may not come again. Hmmm, unless one is going to the monastry up in the high mountains where no other homo sapiens reside, at every turn temptation always rear its ugly head, how can 'opportunity' not present itself?

Many of course see losing one's virginity as 'growing up', becoming a man. What is a man? One who is willing to be responsible for one's actions, right? Does it take a man to resist temptation or to succumb to it?

The other guys I know think nothing of trying out their 'goods' before 'purchase' and in fact, what is the point of purchasing when you can have as many as possible for free - willing supplier and consumer? I posed the question about using women as merchandise and disposing of them when one is tired of the 'toy'. The defence is that girls now have the same attitude towards guys, so why not if both have nothing to lose?

Yes, why not? What does one have to lose? Maybe one may construe that "I am still young, nothing can touch me, not even HIV virus, my body is strong and invincible." Ok, maybe you can escape the whole range of STDs and be preserved physically, but emotionally and spiritually do you know what has transacted each time you sleep with a different partner, which is not apparent to the naked eye? No? Do you bother to find out?

Let's draw an analogy to having two pieces of white paper glued together, and after a few minutes trying to tear them apart, what happen? Will it be a clean tear? Can the papers regain their original form? Probably not huh since they have lost their virgin state? That's what is happening to the soul and spirit which have been intimately attached to another but torn apart thereafter. And one wonders why s/he can never find true love - the spirit man is not at rest having had too much 'experience' in the area best saved for the marriage bed.

Don't get me wrong, am not trying to generalise that all who have had sexual experience will not find true love ever. There are many out there who later turn around and are happily married thereafter, in faithfulness and loyalty to one partner, but does one ever forget the old memories? Sometimes, one may feel unworthy of having brought into the marriage something less than a wholesome person, or whatever is left after being 'tested' by many other partners. When arguments and fights break out, this issue may be brought up, like a thorn in the flesh.

Young men and women, why be like everyone else? Why not set yourselves apart, be different from the crowd, dare to refuse to conform to the pattern of premarital sex? You are YOU, not everyone else in the crowd.